Well…I suppose, really, it was inevitable.
Our adoption is now totally closed.
It’s true that by our word K & I are to send updates about Little Man to our lawyer at specified intervals (3,6,9,12,18,24 months and ages 3-5). So, I guess, it’s sorta open from our standpoint. Plus, S has our phone number and email address.
But our 3 month update was returned “addressee unknown” to the lawyer. Same with our 6 month.
It breaks my heart on a number of levels.
It seriously annoys me on others.
But basically…it just makes me sad that she will never know this precious precious (baby & soon to be not a baby) boy…because she doesn’t want to.
***update due to Michelle’s kind comment***
Yes, we know it’s intentional. Her letters beforehand gave us every indication that she did not want any type of open adoption. She also promised the lawyer would always have her address. She left where she was living and left no forwarding address. She also disabled her email address that we were using. Whether it’s because she can’t handle this right now, I don’t know. But I also know everything that was written and saide beforehand, so I’m pretty confident that this is it until Little Man goes looking for her when he is, in her words, old enough.
I just wonder what old enough means to her…