Our neighbors fight. A lot. I know this because I can hear them (especially when they fight in their detached garage, or on their driveway between our homes). I also know this because she posts everything to Facebook.
Frequently when I peruse Facebook in the mornings, I get to read a lengthy post about their most recent fight. Luckily the topic rarely changes: her non-contribution to their family as a SAHM of three.
I don’t know what is actually said and what is actually perceived and what is actually true. But her recent posts are all about finding a job so she can contribute. She also throws in a large dose of passive-aggressive speech like, “because I don’t do anything all day” and, “because apparently I don’t contribute” and, “apparently my ‘job’ isn’t important.”
I have no idea if her husband says these things to her. But I do know my husband has NEVER said any such thing to me. And for that, I am grateful.
Why! Here’s my dirty little secret for today: I often don’t feel like I am contributing to our family.
Because I earn zero money. Zip. Zilch. Nada. None.
I don’t sell anything from home, I don’t watch other kids in our home for money, I haven’t sold any writing. I don’t extreme coupon. I don’t tutor or give any kind of lesson.
Plus, I have a hefty student loan debt.
Why is it our society thinks only earning money = contributing?
I am rearing our child. I am teaching him, playing with him, reading to him, nurturing and nourishing him. I may be shaping a future very important man of God!!
Why do I think that is not worthy?
I maintain our home, our kitchen, our laundry room, our bank account, our bills, our medical things.
Why do I think that is nothing?
I serve our church in various ways. I nurture friendships and family relationships. I am able to frequently help people at the last minute, because my schedule is flexible.
Why do I think those things are unimportant?
Lies from the Enemy are loud; he prowls around like a lion, after all. I have to ignore him.
But some days are harder than others. Yes?
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