A friend of mine gave birth to a precious baby boy last October. In March, she said she still didn’t feel “normal,” and that she has heard it takes a year after giving birth to feel like yourself again.
Obviously I didn’t give birth…so I wonder how long it takes for adoptive mommies?
When I started teaching, it was well into my third year as a teacher before I felt like I got it.
When we got married, it was well into the second year of our marriage before I really felt like a wife.
How long before I feel like I’ve transitioned into a mother?
Seriously, readers…how long did it take you?
There are days that I really feel like a mother – days where I have it all together and really get it.
But there are still other days where it is so…surreal…to have this no-longer-a-baby-not-quite-a-toddler climbing all over me and our house.
And figuring out who I am as a mother….pshaw (because I can’t figure out how to spell the sound of air blowing out of my lips). Again…some days I see a glimpse of who I am and who I want to be as a mother. Other days it’s all I can do to shower and dress and feed the family and myself!!
I am a girl who thrives on routine and structure. Part of why I loved teaching was the routine of it – I could tell you what I would be doing at any point in the day. I ate lunch at the same time for SEVEN YEARS. Now? Nothing is routine.
I mean, yes, there is a loose structure to our days, but nothing like I used to have. Nothing like I’d like to have…but, again, seriously, how do you structure the day of an 8 month old?
I just keep hoping that next month I’ll get it. Next month we’ll have a routine…a structure…I’ll be better at this, Little Man, I promise.
But next month is now…I can’t focus forever on the future. I’m certainly not wishing away Little Man’s little life, nor am I wishing away this magical time where I get to be home with him every day…
I just wonder….how long before I transition into mommy? About the time I transition into mommy of two…or into homeschool mommy….or new house mommy? 🙂
How long did it take you to transition into mommy (or daddy, if I have any male readers)?