Warning! This post is very truthful. Some will say harsh, negative, blah blah blah…but it’s the God’s honest truth in our house….
Things people will say…and the truth!
1) Sleep when the baby sleeps
Okay…some people are apparently designed to sleep in 1 1/2 – 2 hour stretches mutliple times each day. I am not such a person. Especially two plus months into it. Yes, once in a while, I can get in a nap. BUT…there are things that need to be done that I cannot do with LM is awake…because they require, oh, say, ONE HAND at least, two at the most. Which brings us to…
2) and don’t worry about the house…
As if. We live in a teeny-tiny little home. Five rooms and a tiny bath. Total of five rooms. Plus we don’t have a dishwasher. And we have two dogs and a cat. This means that there is always vacuuming that needs to be done. There are always bottles to wash (by hand) in addition to regular grown up dishes. There is an increasing amount of laundry to be washed, dried, folded and put away. There has to be an actual effort to reduce and organize the clutter of daily life (mail, baby stuff, grown up stuff, etc. etc.). Plus, it’s bad enough my husband comes home to a crying baby (and frequently a crying wife). He’d probably like to come home to a semi-straightened up home.
3) because nobody cares.
Ummm. I care. And I’m the one that lives here. All. The. Time. And I can’t leave and hope that someone else takes care of it. Because my dogs? Totally useless.
4) It’ll get easier…
Two plus months in, and life certainly isn’t easier. It’s a little more organized. I’ve finally found my “mommy groove.” I’ve been able to have LM play on his own (meaning on his play mat or in his bouncy seat while I’m five feet away) and don’t have to hold him constantly. But I don’t think it’s gotten easier. Just a different set of challenges.
5) because it will be natural to you.
Nope. Not for me. I’m not sure this mommy thing is coming to me naturally. Yes, I figure stuff out, but it’s by trial & error…not because I “just know” what to do. Frequently Little Man will fuss and I have to figure out why. Usually I think he’s bored, because he’s fed, dry and nothing is on too tight. But he is teething, so that has thrown us totally out of whack.
6) He’ll sleep through the night.
Apparently not all babies do sleep through the night. Mine sleeps from 9:30 – 3:30 and then from 4:00 – 7:00. The problem is that I can’t usually wind down until 11:00. I just want 8 solid hours of sleep.
7) Baby books are helpful.
Feed your child every 3 hours. NO – every 4 hours. Feed your 8 week old rice cereal. NO – that’s not healthy. Let your baby cry it out. NO – pick him up. Don’t pick him up, you’ll spoil him. NO – you can’t spoil a baby. It’s okay to spank. NO – don’t ever spank a child. Feed your child on a schedule. NO – demand feed. Sawddles. NO – don’t swaddle. Give baby tylenol. NO – no medications. Babies don’t teeth until they’re 4 months old. NO – they can cut teeth any time.
Yep. Baby books are really helpful (insert sarcastic tone & laugh here). They all contradict each other. Even if they say the same thing, they rephrase it so you think the previous book was wrong. Very confusing.
8) It’s the best job in the whole world (motherhood, that is).
Okay, that one I will give you. It is a great job. But it’s hard, and I think women lie to each other about that all the time. It is the best job. Being home with Little Man is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. But it certainly isn’t easy.
I really wonder when I see women who are thriving as new mothers:
Does it really come that easy to you? (because hubby & I are working on it)
Do you just know what to do, instinctively? (because we don’t)
Don’t you ever cry because you wonder if you’re doing it right? (because I do)
How do you function on such little sleep? (because I don’t function well)
Really? Your 6 week old sleeps ten hours in a row? (because LM didn’t)
You know they should still eat like every 4 hours at that point? (some every 3 hours)
Am I really the only one every to stuggle with this?