SO…our lawyer called us a little over a week ago. S, is moving into a new apartment on November 1. She (so I’m told) shyly asked the paralegal if she thought we would want to maybe come see her new apartment, let her make us dinner, and meet her other children.
We’ve gone from a fairly closed situation (by S’s initial choice) to a fairly open situation (again, by S’s choice).
We are a little…speechless. We aren’t opposed to open adoption, obviously, but we weren’t headed down that path. Now we are.
Here’s where I need help:
Saturday we are meeting with our social worker. We just feel like a little more counseling would be good for us (me & the hubby). So my question: what would you have asked your social worker/agency/facilitator if you had the chance?
The other thing: I know there are birthmothers who read my blog, and I am very respectful of them and grateful to them. Ladies (both birthmothers AND adoptive mothers who have great open relationships with a birthmother), I would love to know what you suggest for our meeting. I’m curious what to wear, should I bring a housewarming gift, should we bring the other children gifts, is this a good sign, etc. etc.
I would just love any advice and encouraging words you might have for this situation. We don’t have a date scheduled yet, but I imagine it will be soon!