Okay…so here was today.
Rainy. Like 3″ of rain. Plus it was chilly. The kiddos were on “fall break” while we had “professional development.” Seriously? Why can’t the teachers have a few days off?
A friend of mine told me today she is pregnant. Yah! With twins. Seriously? She’s getting ready to pop out #4 & #5 and I can’t have ONE??? She just looks at her husband sideways and gets knocked up. Me? I practically stood on my head one cycle while my husband cheered on his little guys with promises of beer if they found an egg. Seriously! Only my infertile sisters can understand the humor of your husband yelling at your womb, “Swim, Boys! There’s cold beer and a hot chick waiting for you!”
That same friend then said she just knows I’ll get pregnant after we adopt. “Everyone I know that has adopted got pregnant.” Seriously? And how many people do you know that have adopted?
Another friend (whose daughter just placed a child for adoption!!!!) said the same thing. Seriously? I said, “Do you realize that is an incredibly offensive thing to say to me? I am not going to get pregnant. Only 15% of couples who adopt get pregnant!” Yet they continued to tell me – insist, almost – that I will be pregnant soon after January. Seriously? I really wanted to ask the grandmother of the baby placed for adoption, “Did her parents get pregnant?” Seriously.
I got my “your baby is as big as (fill in a veggie or fruit) because you’re this many weeks pregnant” email yesterday. We have 14 weeks before Baby joins us. Seriously! Only 14 weeks. AND, it could be less than that, couldn’t it?!? We are SO not ready for this – seriously!!!!
Yesterday I referred to all of you, my faithful readers, as “all of my friends who have adopted.” I realize not all of us have actually been matched yet, or brought home a child yet, but I said something about going home and crawling back into bed. (I had a slight fever on Wednesday, and I’ve had a sore throat/coughing/sneezing achiness since then). My friends with children laughed and said, “You can’t do that for long.” Seriously? Like I’m totally unaware that my life is about to drastically change. ANYWAY…I responded, “All of my friends who have adopted have encouraged me to take advantage of not having a baby for as long as I can.” (Thanks, Wendy, for the letter to yourself a year ago!!).
But seriously…why is it that many many MANY of my women friends who are parents only want to tell me how horrible it will be to have a baby? I mean, it’s not all women, thank God. I have a few friends (especially the older moms) who talk about how I’ll be a great mom and how much I will enjoy it. But many of them just sort of look at me and laugh evilly and talk about the horrible ways my life is about to be ruined. Seriously? Can’t you just be excited for me? I’ve wanted a child for over FIVE years…let me enjoy this and then let me ENJOY all that comes with it!!
And is it wrong that I want to point out that I don’t have to get fat, be naseous OR get stretch marks? Seriously. There are definite benefits to adopting!!
Seriously…that was my day. How was yours?